Here it goes...
- I miss my kids like crazy. LIKE CRAZY!
- I am not a good housekeeper even though I religiously pin ideas off of pinterest on how to keep my house clean in 30 minutes a day. Whatever... I don't care who you are. It's not possible with small kids to keep your entire house clean for longer than 30 seconds. If you were to tell me different, I wouldn't believe you.
- I am desperately in love with B. He is literally superman or Ironman if he had his way, right now. He cooks, kind of cleans, makes the kids lunches, helps them with homework, takes and picks them up from gymnastics and soccer and works like a mad man to get his day job done.
- I work way too much
- I eat horrible
- I don't exercise anymore
- I don't sleep at all
- Between leaving for work every morning at 7AM working like crazy, I come home and still work. Emails, texts messages, cooking, cleaning, wiping down, picking up, reading school emails, spend as much time with the kids as possible before they go to sleep... you get the picture.
Someone said to me the other day and it has stuck with me, " Kelly, I get that you work and have to juggle kids and schedules and that is stressful and hard, but can I ask you a question? When is "Kelly time"?" Now this question was out of the blue and actally very random for the moment that it was in. I stopped what I was doing, looked up and was completely shocked that I already knew the answer to the question. There was no delay in my response... " when I am in the shower and when I sleep, even then, I still get interrupted 80 percent of the time." I went about my task at hand and was immediately saddened. This person didn't say anything back to me. She just smiled at me. The kind of smile that says, I love you. All she said was, "You know this is a problem. I can see it and so can your family.
When I was a stay at home mom, I had time. I was always with my kids, so I would seek out time to get away for some" Kelly time". Girls nights were regular, weekend cabin trips with the ladies or my family, date night with my sweetheart every Friday was a necessity. Over the last 6 months, I have had 3 date nights, 2 girls nights out and have been extremely inconsistent with communicating with my friends. When I was home everyday, I would have done anything to get out for some my time and now I will do anything to stay in. Ironic. I know that I need time with my B and I need time with my kids, but I also need time with just me too. To read, write, run, talk to my dear friends and learn about their lives, talk to my husband and hold hands and kiss. You know, everyday little things that make me happy are unfortunately going by the way side and I feel like I am lost.
So I have a question...
The question is "when?" When does a full time working mom do this and not take away the little time that they have for their family? AND, do you think it's important for a mom to have "My Time?"
I know there is no greater gift than being a mom and that includes being there for them and wiping their tears, hugging them when they have accomplished something and just being there when they need you. But I also know that I am a better mom, when I have taken care of my needs as well. I just can't seem to justify that right now and it makes me sad. So ANY advice would be wonderful!